You really can’t tell about your chemistry until you meet in person

Do Not Delay Your First Date

After you have communicated with a guy a couple times on the free dating websites for women, you should get his phone number. While the traditional way of dating is to wait for him to call, you can benefit from calling him. I’ve been told that it was very helpful that I gave out my number and encouraged a call in the evening. The timing of the call is important. If a guy never answers the phone in the evening, he is either married or a player. You don’t want to actually meet him if he isn’t available to talk in the evening at least some of the time. All of us can be legitimately busy some of the time, but not all of the time.

First date recommendations

After you have spoken with him on a call or two in the evening, you should set up a meeting. The best venue for an initial meeting is a coffee shop or a crowded restaurant in the afternoon. You need to figure out if any chemistry exists. If there is chemistry, the coffee shop meeting will be magical. You really shouldn’t set up an actual dinner and a movie type date from the start. If you first see the guy and just have no chemistry together, the dinner and a movie date will be the longest night in the history of mankind. If there is chemistry, the meeting in the coffee shop will stretch to two hours in what seems like a minute.

Online dating is kind of backwards

The reason I say to meet sooner rather than later is that you really can’t tell about your chemistry together until you actually meet in person. Pictures on a profile page do not fully capture the look and persona of anyone. They can tell you that you might be interested but the actual person in front of you may not be interesting to you. Likewise, a good conversation on the phone may not mean that meeting the person will flow well. Remember that online dating is kind of backwards. If you know someone before you date them or meet someone while you are out, then you’ve already had your all important first impression of them. Even if you like someone’s online profile and enjoyed a couple phone chats, you may have a very negative first impression when you meet them in person.

Best of luck in your online adventures. Have fun and be nice.